I’m out to my closest pals and colleagues but not to my family. I’ve thought about coming out to them but I don’t wanna give my mama a heart attack. Thing is people in my family talk. When someone does something crazy, they discuss it until someone else does something crazier. Whenever i hear that so and so did, I don’t say nothing about it cos i wouldn’t want anyone in my business. If they ever found out that I’m gay, I know which of my aunts would suggest that they take me for “mahoya” as in prayers. I’m not really worried about what they would say and how long they would talk about it, I’m worried about my mother. She didn’t do anything wrong. She raised me right. It’s such a shame, I like all this pages about gay rights on Facebook and I even have a blog about it yet i haven’t given my family a chance to accept me.
September 11, 2011
Family Talks
Posted by Aloe Legal under Coming out, Life | Tags: Activism, Africa, African lesbians, bisexual, bisexuals, fear, gay, I'm gay, kenyan lesbians, lesbian, lesbians, queer, tolerance |[9] Comments
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September 11, 2011 at 5:41 pm
I understand why you are hesitant. I came out in my 40s and it has not been easy and it has been the hardest on my mother. She has survived though. I just wrote my own blog about living life out in the open and how another one before that about stressing from hiding who I am.
good luck!
September 12, 2011 at 7:59 pm
I’ll come clean only if she asked me about it.
September 12, 2011 at 12:58 pm
I know where you are coming from, i guess some things are better read than done:| just the thought of my family guessing am queer makes me cringe,jeez! i think you are on the right track though, mayb thats how it should start…baby steps…plz update us on how that one goes,yes? And oh..i see you took the haki yetu slogan seriously:p props gal
September 12, 2011 at 8:04 pm
Lol ati haki yetu? Sawa basi.
September 17, 2011 at 10:30 am
I hope you will one day be able to tell your family.
September 20, 2011 at 10:33 pm
Hope so too!
September 18, 2011 at 1:58 am
Only certain people in my family know, my mother and stepfather know. A few close cousins know too, my dad I don’t really cares if he knows or not because he and I aren’t close. I came out when I was 17 I’m 30 now and my family and friends support me. You never know you might find some unexpected support.
September 20, 2011 at 11:40 pm
True. Things would be easier.
September 30, 2011 at 11:53 pm
Sometimes it hard to come out to family..almost everyone in my family knows about me…someone else told my mom I was pissed. Like they should’ve let me tell her.
At any rate, she never came out and asked me so I don’t know what she knows.